Episode 3: How To Raise An Adult, with Julie Lythcott-Haims

In this episode, I talk to Julie Lythcott-Haims, the author of "How to Raise An Adult."

Lythcott-Haims talks to us about "existential impotence;" the need to let our kids experience failure; how to think about and navigate the college admittance process; and her own journey as a parent.

It's a powerful and informative chat. Download it now!

Julie Lythcott-Haims' Web site: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/

Julie’s TED Talk

Books and Resources Mentioned

How To Raise An Adult


The Gardener and the Carpeneter

Colleges That Change Lives

Harvard Graduate School of Education’s Report: Turning the Tide

The Alumni Factor

Fisk Guide to Colleges

Episode 2: The Years That Matter Most: How College Makes or Breaks Us, with Paul Tough


In his quest to understand the realities behind the modern higher education industrial complex, author Paul Tough spent six years traveling across 21 states visiting college campuses, corporate officers, labs and people's homes and schools.

He talked to high school students in various socioeconomic strata, test prep business people, college admissions officers, economists, education reformers and professors.

Tough's new book "The Years That Matter Most: How College Makes Or Breaks Us" contains eye-opening stories about incredible students and their achievements, as well as the stories of students who struggle once they get into elite colleges. But his book also examines the disturbing findings of Harvard economist Raj Chetty, who among other things found that "rich" and "poor" kids generally attend different colleges in the United States.  

It's a deep behind-the-scenes investigation into the nature of social mobility, or the lack thereof, in 21st century America, and what we can and should do to fix the broken system. In the process of showing us why these developments are manifesting themselves, Tough also reveals the details of what’s really driving the higher education testing and admissions systems.

Paul Tough's web site: https://www.paultough.com/

New York Times Magazine article: What College Admissions Officers Really Want

The College Board's response to Tough's book is here.

More on colleges and social mobility here:

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